Response to a Lose It! friend

I know I haven’t posted in over 2 weeks and I’m sorry that I have neglected you. I recently had one of my friends on Lose It! e-mail, so I want to share her e-mail and my response back to it.

Hi Darlene,
I’ve seen how well you’ve been doing and I’m trying to get back on track and eating healthy with working out.
Just wondering how you’ve stayed motivated eating healthy ect.
Thank you!

My response:
I have honestly have had a hard time trying to respond to this e-mail. Yes, I have done well and have lost 53 pounds. However, the last 2 1/2 weeks have not been great because I have been eating a lot of junk food and really haven’t exercised. I really think I must be going through something, whether I’m pregnant (which I have been asked some many times by my family and others) or life is just getting me down (I have been unemployed, since the end of June 2009. I was a teacher and my position was cut. Nothing since then has seemed to go right.) I have had major cravings for Peanut M&Ms and ice cream (plus other stuff, but those are the main two). I feel like I need to tell you all that because I would feel like I was being dishonest with you if I pretend everything is going well.

Now, that is out-of-the-way I can get down to trying to answer your answer (heck, maybe it would help me get back on track..haha).

One of my biggest motivation is the fact that I’m tired of being fat. I hate being the fattest person in a room. Even though I do have a great boyfriend, I hate the fact that no other guy would be interested in me because of the way I look. I have 3 sisters and I’m the biggest and also the youngest. I hate being larger than my boyfriend, but I’ll always be bigger then him. I have large frame and he has a small frame. The weight he is almost at now is about where I want to be. I want to not have to buy clothes that costs 3x as much as skinny people’s clothes. I want to become active and healthier, so that when I do have children I will be able to enjoy them they way I should be able to. I also want to be a good role model for them. I really want to change all my bad habits, so my children don’t develop them too.

I am really obsessed with logging everything I eat, even the unhealthy stuff. I am constantly checking Lose It!, whether it is online or on my iPod touch. Overall, I have actually notice a decline in all of my friends activity level, so maybe we are all going through a tough patch. I honestly believe that I can do this. I have lost 53 already and have 107 pounds left to go. One of my sisters, just told me the other day that she can see how much happier I am since I started losing weight. My weight loss has definitely been a struggle and I have had my share of ups and downs. Right now, I’m going through a big down, but I WILL come out of it. I need to remember that I want to be healthier, skinnier, and happier, but that will not come without blood, sweat, and tears.

Anytime that I eat something that I really shouldn’t, I do not dwell on it or feel guilty. I feel that if I allow myself to beat myself up about, then I will fail. I also do not deny myself anything (when I’m on the right track) because again I know that as soon as I start denying myself certain foods, I’m setting myself up for failure. Even though it’s been a few weeks, since I last posted I really do feel that it helps me. (Maybe I should go write a post again and that might help me get back on the right track) What we need to do before inhaling those delicious M&Ms, ice cream, movie theater style popcorn, or whatever our weakness is to ask ourselves if it is really worth it. I know I have not asked myself that for the past 2 1/2 weeks, so starting tomorrow that will change and that question will be in the back of my head constantly.

Sorry, this is so long-winded and thank you for listening to my rant or whatever it would be called. I hope this helps you, as well as myself. I wish you all the best of luck!